Question:
I am a Christian in my early twenties. I committed fornication when I was trying to help a lady. She wanted a place to sleep for the night before continuing her journey the next day. That was over a month ago. Last week she visited me. I couldn't stop myself. Again I had sex with her. I confessed my sins and promise never to do that after the first time, but when she came the second time I failed my promise. Please help me. As a Christian what should I do, so that I can control myself with this type of sin?
Answer:
Like many young men, you don't really consider the power sex has over the body. "For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life -- her ways are unstable; you do not know them" (Proverbs 5:3-6).
You are a man and you have no business having a female in your home. The situation is too private and it is too easy to yield to temptation, as you have learned. If a female needs a place to spend the night, then you find a female friend she can stay with. You need to not only protect guests from external harm, but also protect them from yourself (as well as protecting you and your reputation).
I disagree that you couldn't stop yourself from having sex with this woman. Rather, you had no desire to stop at the time because you were too inflamed with passion. "No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it" (I Corinthians 10:13). There were several ways out, but you didn't take any of them.
Whether you promised or not, God said that having sex with someone you are not married to is a sin (I Corinthians 6:9-11). Therefore, you need to be sensible. You may see a woman only in places where there are other people around. No touching private areas of the body (I Corinthians 7:1) and your clothes stay on you.
"Therefore hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth. Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, Lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one; lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner; and you mourn at last, when your flesh and your body are consumed, and say: "How I have hated instruction, and my heart despised correction!"" (Proverbs 5:7-12).
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Answer:
Like many young men, you don't really consider the power sex has over the body. "For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life -- her ways are unstable; you do not know them" (Proverbs 5:3-6).
You are a man and you have no business having a female in your home. The situation is too private and it is too easy to yield to temptation, as you have learned. If a female needs a place to spend the night, then you find a female friend she can stay with. You need to not only protect guests from external harm, but also protect them from yourself (as well as protecting you and your reputation).
I disagree that you couldn't stop yourself from having sex with this woman. Rather, you had no desire to stop at the time because you were too inflamed with passion. "No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it" (I Corinthians 10:13). There were several ways out, but you didn't take any of them.
Whether you promised or not, God said that having sex with someone you are not married to is a sin (I Corinthians 6:9-11). Therefore, you need to be sensible. You may see a woman only in places where there are other people around. No touching private areas of the body (I Corinthians 7:1) and your clothes stay on you.
"Therefore hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth. Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, Lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one; lest aliens be filled with your wealth, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner; and you mourn at last, when your flesh and your body are consumed, and say: "How I have hated instruction, and my heart despised correction!"" (Proverbs 5:7-12).
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